My experiences, thoughts and their expression: mi vida

This subject has been close recently. It came across as a friend wrestled with decision making: what to do? She knew she had to move on, recognized how stuck she was. Her energies were demanding that "she needed to do something", but what? The "cue" came to me when she repeatedly uttered "Should"..."Should be"..."the right thing ...". Well, that clued me in. When the heart is not leading...there is reliance on structures. Religion, for instance. Moral, ethical, religious constructs. Commandments established externally by parents, society, authority figures...even experiences...such as traffic tickets, broken noses, lost friendships, etc. What is, what was "the right thing to do"? What did I not do "right" that brought those consequences on, so hard, so painful? "Big sticks" are profound teachers. How about external (and internal) consequences of action, actions, on others? The "common good"....