Would you ....shhhhsshhh...for a while, take a break, please?
Op-Ed Contributor - Now Don’t Hear This - NYTimes.com
A good friend this past Sunday brought out the notion of what goes on in the minds (and hearts) of those people that talk incessantly, never having time to stop, changing from subject - better yet - linking to what they are saying another story when they come to a 'breather', and then take renewed energies from the newer story, and slowly increase the speed and the tone till the length of speech decay curve starts to set in on that newer story and slowly they come down, and...silence for a millionth of a second... (then you know that a 3rd. one is starting...) then the inhale, and there it comes, their mind seems to have found an association of the newer story to the NEW one that they just pulled from the files of their experiences, or memories, or "my friend just told me" source, or....agggghhhhh!!!!!! "How do I get out of here?", your soul silently asks hoping for a release from this torment.
Well, I don't know and I do not think anyone knows.
OR, how about going for a bite, 'cause you are really hungry, or thirsty and hungry, and you are able to get to a dining place near, so as not to have to drive across town to your favorite place, and as soon as you sit down the music starts, blasting away, shaking the tables and with it the ear drums, and you feel your jaw trembling from the sound waves of the speaker just directly in front and above you, and all of a sudden you are not thinking of how hungry you are but either ask for a frozen Margarita (which you would never do because it is too late) or find yourself in a horrible mood and start a disagreement with the loved one across the table because you are feeling horrible and they look so placid and rat-a-tat-tat... at peace...agggghhhhh!!!!!! "How do I get out of here?", your soul silently asks.
When reading the linked article, the explanation sort of comes. "The scale of our noise problem isn’t in doubt. In recent years rigorous studies on the health consequences of noise have indicated that noise elevates heart rate, blood pressure, vasoconstriction and stress hormone levels, and increases risk for heart attacks. These reports prove that even when we’ve become mentally habituated to noise, the damage it does to our physiologies continues unchecked."
Not only damage to our physiologies, but to our relationships, I would add. How can I establish a nice rapport with someone when I have to shout across the table or have to repeat myself 3 - 4 times especially in the opening, or in the punch lines! Or having to ask the other person to repeat themselves yet one more time, because you haven't got the faintest idea of what their thread is about what they are saying, 'cause you've just heard bits and pieces, and your mind is whizzing through super algorithms trying to weave a story that makes sense and fits what you think you are hearing and which matches the expression on their faces, without having to ask them when they finish if they would please tell you what it was all about?. ....agggghhhhh!!!!!! "How do I get out of here??", your soul silently asks.
This is too much effort for nothing; it is like working a whole week at a job that gets the best out of you, soul, sweat and tears, and then being told that the payroll will not be met! It goes beyond disappointment: it is even worse!
So, in order to stop the complaining, let's see if we can fix the problem. How about...do you think we can vote in a new amendment to the Constitution for quiet zones around my ears - and yours too, and ok, everyone's ears - to include their apartment and their areas of sleep, dining, and yes, work and entertainment(really?!), and ok, ok, with the exception of those that in order to meet their 'individual rights', can wear some type of label or indication on their forehead or ears (earrings, maybe?) that signals that they do not want to be included into this overreach by government, and thus they want things to stay as they are, and thus are visibly the ones that I will not sit with for dinner any time soon?
Yes - we need to make a case for silence, don't we?
Is it a right, though?
Let me know, please?
A good friend this past Sunday brought out the notion of what goes on in the minds (and hearts) of those people that talk incessantly, never having time to stop, changing from subject - better yet - linking to what they are saying another story when they come to a 'breather', and then take renewed energies from the newer story, and slowly increase the speed and the tone till the length of speech decay curve starts to set in on that newer story and slowly they come down, and...silence for a millionth of a second... (then you know that a 3rd. one is starting...) then the inhale, and there it comes, their mind seems to have found an association of the newer story to the NEW one that they just pulled from the files of their experiences, or memories, or "my friend just told me" source, or....agggghhhhh!!!!!! "How do I get out of here?", your soul silently asks hoping for a release from this torment.
Well, I don't know and I do not think anyone knows.
OR, how about going for a bite, 'cause you are really hungry, or thirsty and hungry, and you are able to get to a dining place near, so as not to have to drive across town to your favorite place, and as soon as you sit down the music starts, blasting away, shaking the tables and with it the ear drums, and you feel your jaw trembling from the sound waves of the speaker just directly in front and above you, and all of a sudden you are not thinking of how hungry you are but either ask for a frozen Margarita (which you would never do because it is too late) or find yourself in a horrible mood and start a disagreement with the loved one across the table because you are feeling horrible and they look so placid and rat-a-tat-tat... at peace...agggghhhhh!!!!!! "How do I get out of here?", your soul silently asks.
When reading the linked article, the explanation sort of comes. "The scale of our noise problem isn’t in doubt. In recent years rigorous studies on the health consequences of noise have indicated that noise elevates heart rate, blood pressure, vasoconstriction and stress hormone levels, and increases risk for heart attacks. These reports prove that even when we’ve become mentally habituated to noise, the damage it does to our physiologies continues unchecked."
Not only damage to our physiologies, but to our relationships, I would add. How can I establish a nice rapport with someone when I have to shout across the table or have to repeat myself 3 - 4 times especially in the opening, or in the punch lines! Or having to ask the other person to repeat themselves yet one more time, because you haven't got the faintest idea of what their thread is about what they are saying, 'cause you've just heard bits and pieces, and your mind is whizzing through super algorithms trying to weave a story that makes sense and fits what you think you are hearing and which matches the expression on their faces, without having to ask them when they finish if they would please tell you what it was all about?. ....agggghhhhh!!!!!! "How do I get out of here??", your soul silently asks.
This is too much effort for nothing; it is like working a whole week at a job that gets the best out of you, soul, sweat and tears, and then being told that the payroll will not be met! It goes beyond disappointment: it is even worse!
So, in order to stop the complaining, let's see if we can fix the problem. How about...do you think we can vote in a new amendment to the Constitution for quiet zones around my ears - and yours too, and ok, everyone's ears - to include their apartment and their areas of sleep, dining, and yes, work and entertainment(really?!), and ok, ok, with the exception of those that in order to meet their 'individual rights', can wear some type of label or indication on their forehead or ears (earrings, maybe?) that signals that they do not want to be included into this overreach by government, and thus they want things to stay as they are, and thus are visibly the ones that I will not sit with for dinner any time soon?
Yes - we need to make a case for silence, don't we?
Is it a right, though?
Let me know, please?
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