By José Blanco
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"Caution: if you trade in your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief."

Brené Brown, the Gifts of Imperfection, p.  53.

"Sacrificing who we are for the sake of what other people think just isn't worth it. ...being true to ourselves is the best gift we can give the people we love."

Wonder who am I being for you, to you, for me...Help me try 'to be me'. Thanks!

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